Kate Bellm is a Dutch woman who was born in Utrecht, The Netherlands and since that time has been an accomplished author with many books to her credit. However, her real talent lies in writing about love and relationships and she has given great insight into the often mysterious world of how marriage and love develop especially in the modern western world where such matters are often viewed from the perspective of the single partner. Her book, ‘The Love Knot’, offers advice on what to look for in a potential partner and what can make a relationship last. In’Heightened Expectations’ Kate Bellm provides advice on how to keep your love life interesting and what to do if your partner is not doing the same.
Kate Bellm is not out to attack those that have different nationalities or cultures as she is quite welcoming of people from all backgrounds as part of making our world a better place. What is interesting to note is the way in which she examines relationships from both the perspective of the single person and the married person’s point of view. The focus of her work is on how communication and attraction can take precedence over differences in culture and nationalities when it comes to relationships and marriage. While some might find this approach a little simplistic, Kate Bellm clearly states how these two factors play into human relationships and how these same factors can be used to enhance and strengthen the love you have for your partner. So whether you are dating someone who is of a different race, different nationality, different religion, different age, sex, background or even nationalities themselves, you will learn valuable lessons and tips that will help you improve the love you have for each other.
One of the key elements in ‘The Love Knot’ is that Kate Bellm shows how we as people can easily form wrong expectations about how relationships should work. It seems that the way we think about relationships has changed over the last fifty years and that many of us now place more emphasis on the physical aspects of a relationship than the emotional ones. If we want to build a lasting relationship that will last through the thick and thin, then we need to start by building a deep understanding and appreciation for our partners’ strengths and weaknesses. By focusing our attention on their strong points, we will create a bond that is stronger and deeper than just our own perception of them. Once we have formed this strong foundation, then we can expect our partner to live up to their potential, in every way that we expect.