Caroline Vang, who used to be a practicing psychotherapist before she became a teacher, has developed into an expert in her field of practice. As such, she has developed a set of tools and techniques that are particularly effective when it comes to helping people reach their full heights of personal growth. In her book, The Missing Secret: Achieving Your Goals and the Power of Attraction, she shares some of her techniques, including the one on how you can create a meaningful connection with whatever personality type you are attracted to. Using the metaphor of a tall tower, she explained that by working at increasing your personal height, you are steadily reaching the top.
In this same book, she also explains the difference between height and identity. You see, as an Asian woman, you already possess many nationalities and cultural identities. Being a global citizen, it is natural for you to have many nationalities and cultural identities, which you attribute to your ethnic background or even your physical features. As a result, when you seek romance outside of your own nationalities or cultures, you often end up being disappointed or unable to meet the expectations of other nationalities or cultures, which can lead to broken relationships because you didn’t respect their standards.
When it comes to finding true love, you have to remember that what really matters is whether you are compatible with the other person. If you are attracted to a taller woman, but you do not feel comfortable around her because she is from a different nationality, it is not about her height. It is about you being compatible with her. You will have more success pairing with someone who shares similar nationalities, occupations, or age as you do. By taking a bit of time to think about how your attractions may be compatible with the other person’s, you can ensure that you will be able to meet and develop meaningful relationships.