One of the most popular books on relationships is titled “Erika Wennerstrom: The Science of Getting Him to Love You Younger.” This book covers a variety of topics that women commonly face when trying to get men to marry them. One of these topics is nationality and age preference. Although not directly discussed in the book, one of the biggest problems with trying to get a man to commit is figuring out whether or not he feels the same way about each of you. After reading through the first two chapters, I was somewhat intrigued with the different attitudes that were shared by Wennerstrom towards age and nationality.
Throughout the rest of the book, Wennerstrom shares quotes about how knowing your partner’s nationalities can dramatically improve the odds of having a successful marriage. She illustrates this a bit with a simple example that she relates in the book. Asking a cross-dressing woman if she is attracted to an ethnic features of one gender shows that her true response will always be negative. However, asking someone of the opposite sex who is married and has children shows that her true response may be positive or at least neutral.
In terms of identifying whether one’s partner is a “bigger” nationality or one that is “lighter,” there is not much guidance provided. The author does note that there are some countries where being ethnically diverse can be a positive. For instance, in Japan it is common for Japanese to marry individuals of the same age and same nationality, while in the United States, being “American” is often equated with being “white.” However, the Japanese culture emphasizes the importance of staying true to one’s own roots, so it is not surprising that a person marrying an American would want to retain their cultural identity. Ultimately, one’s partner’s nationalities will likely play a small role in their long term marriage happiness.