Fernanda Kinder does not identify as a nationality but she understands the need for boundaries in a business environment. Her partner, Bob, likes the idea of maintaining his national identity but does not want to give up his American heritage. Fernanda has enjoyed learning about height differences and she likes knowing that her partner’s height is the same as her own. However, she does not want to become romantically involved with a man who does not share her national identity. She wants to be able to accept someone for who he is, not for who he says he is.
Bob is a tall Texan who is not afraid of speaking about his heritage (his ancestors came from Texas). Fernanda sees herself more as part European than as a Texan and wants to learn more about European history so that she can accept him as a friend and not feel romantically attached. The intimacy that develops in a relationship with another person is based on the openness with which one allows oneself to be vulnerable and real at the same time. This book presents a recipe for developing such an open relationship. It also provides examples of what foods and activities we can engage in together and how this can deepen our love and friendship.
Fernanda Kinder teaches us that accepting someone does not mean giving up one’s national identity. While it may be easy to defend one’s national identity when one is having a positive relationship, being open and honest about it helps build the foundation for a deeper relationship. If you are struggling with your identity or want to find a new way to express yourself, this book provides tools to do so. It also offers a delicious recipe for enjoying being who you are: confident, open, and available!